Friday, November 19, 2010

Daddy, I Do

The other day on Feministing I saw this trailer to Daddy, I Do, a documentary about abstinence-only programs.

I haven't seen the film yet, but there are a few things I want to point out from this trailer:

1. There's NOTHING in the Bible about pledging your virginity to your father. Believe me, I used Bible Gateway.

2. Yes, that is Matthew Paul Turner. And he's right; the phrase "purity balls" does sound x-rated.

3. Turner is also right about the way Christian parents talk to their children about sex. Yes, we should definitely encourage kids to wait until marriage, but I also think we need to teach kids all the facts about sex. We need to talk to them about contraceptives, sexual abuse, respecting women, and the dangers of pornography. How else are kids going to learn all this stuff?

1 comment:

  1. Have you read "The Purity Myth" by Jessica Valence? It's a bit vitriolic at points and you have to really filter a lot of what she says, but she makes some good logical points about how purity balls seem to reference the idea of women as property - you pledge the most valuable thing you have as a woman (your unsullied nature) to your father, until he quite literally hands you over to your husband. The agency of the woman to make her own decisions gets hidden in this idea of "protecting" her holiness.

    The author gets vitriolic in proposing that these sorts of things are a part of a patriarchal society attempting to keep women down, which I think is a bit much, but I also think she has a point. When we make this one of the most important part of spiritual life for a woman, and don't do the same for men (you don't see teenage males proclaiming a pledge of purity to their mothers, do you?), we do send the message that the most important thing that defines who you are is that which exists between your legs. God forbid you make your own informed decision about it.